Welcome. I’m so glad you are here. By the end of this course you’re going to have the tools, strategies, and mindset needed to make the transition from punishments and rewards to authentic, effective leadership.
I want to start by highlighting that we all pretty much have the same basic goals for our children, regardless of the parenting choice we’ve made up to this point.
That’s not a full list, of course, but the point is that most parents share these goals. And there’s no doubt in my mind that your parenting choices, regardless of what they’ve been, have had your children's’ best interest at heart.
The choices you’ve made that have led you to this point were made because you thought they were necessary to raise great children. I totally get that. But I also want you challenge you to not hide from the past.
The reality is that your children have likely had negative experiences. You don’t have to retreat into shame about that, but it’s important to acknowledge it. We’re never going to be perfect, but the more we’re willing to extend empathy to our children, the better we’re going to be going forward.
I want to make this point very clear: while I’m going to talk about the destructive nature of certain parenting tactics and strategies, it’s never to put you down, to criticize you, or to shame you. It’s solely for the purpose of providing you valuable insight that will help guide your future actions.
With that said, it’s time to focus on the present. It’s time to open yourself to a different model, one that draws it’s power not from the size and strength of your body, but from but from the size and strength of your heart and your mind.
Instead of isolating you from your children, Revolutionary Parenting tactics build bridges to your children. Instead of provoking power struggles, Revolutionary Parenting tactics promote cooperation. Instead of demanding obedience, Revolutionary Parenting tactics achieve buy-in.
Every tactic and strategy has the end goal of strengthening or maintaining your connection with your children because when the connection breaks, you lose your influence.
When you lose your influence, you’re left only with force or capitulation. That’s a lose-lose situation. When the connection is maintained, there’s always hope for a win-win outcome.
As you’re going to see, there are many necessary mindset shifts in your journey to being a Revolutionary Parent. I will help you make those shifts and my hope is that the results you will see in your relationship with your children will motivate you to continue learning and growing as parent.
I do want to warn you, though. Depending on how long you’ve been using a non-authentic parenting style such as authoritarianism or permissiveness, home life may get worse before it gets better.
Embrace the turbulence. Parenting is never easy. There are no magic pills. There is no such thing as a conflict-free household.
Because these strategies and tactics aren’t quick fixes, you’re probably going to question this curriculum throughout the transition. That’s a normal part of the process. Getting support throughout these tough times will be a huge part of your success, so reach out early and often.
If you would, please take a moment to introduce yourself in the discussion section of this module. Tell us about your parenting style thus far, the challenges you’ve faced, and what your relationship with your children currently looks like. It’s very helpful to share your situation and to read about the situations of others. Once you’ve done that, I’ll see you in the next module.